AHHHHHHHHH i solved it!!! i was installing Samuel Slight's DLS from
http://aaronserv.dyndns.org/hosting/ffsf/download_8.html , and i quote from the readme:
5. If your disk and/or cd-rom support DMA (try this to see if it does), enable it :
a) right-click on "My Computer" then "Properties"
b) click on "Device Manager" tab
c) double-click on "Disk drives" then double-click on your drive
d) click on "Settings" tab
e) if DMA is not checked, check it then click "OK".
f) before closing "System Properties", repeat step b) to e) for other drives
and cd-rom that you may have.
g) after clicking "OK" on "System Properties" window, your computer will restart.
If your drive support DMA, it will remain checked.
Note: By doing so, FF8 will no longer hesitate after moving from scene to scene.
And also it improves a lot your drive performance in any case.
YES!!!!! this after years of tolerating the annoying pauses from scene to scene!