Ahh took me a while but seems i got it to work now =)
Disabling all options in daemon tools (rmps, securom etc) did the trick, also using magixts 1.31 launcher since Aalis opengl gives "failed to load custom driver", actually, magixts launcher also gives that error when i have aalis driver installed.. Something to do with the eax.dll i suspect since removing it solves the problem and i can use magixts launcher again =/ (and yes, using Ficedula-FF8Configurator2.2, same thing happens).
But it isn't that big of the problem since i still can use all the good stuff modern graphic cards enable and view it on a bigger screen too without the need to back off a couple of meters
Not sure if the enhanced audio is working or not but since i can hear music and everything, at least SOMETHING is making noise
PS. And the thing with the daemon tools is still a little fishy, why the unmodded game runs fine with everything enabled and a modded one doesn't..